Watch Amanda Kelly explaining that reinforcement of positive behavior can be brought about by teaching your child to do things/chores which they would not usually prefer to do and then follow it up with things which they enjoy doing. For example, you can ask your child to clean the desert counter first before actually eating the dessert.
You have to be responsible for the rules that you set for your child. Not only your child but you should be able to follow the rules that you have set. For example, if you forbid the child to eat ice cream during breakfast, you yourself cannot do that as well. If you want to break from the routine you need to communicate that with your child clearly.
Deliver directions as statements rather than questions. This helps the child to get clarity on what needs to be done as individuals on the spectrum become very confused about subtleties and idioms used. For example instead of asking the child “ Are we ready for school?” tell the child “Pack your bags and we are going to school.” If our questions require a yes/no answer or have a choice involved then we should avoid posing statements as questions.
Limit lengthy discussions and the amount of feedback that you would generally give your child when they are not putting up their best behavior. If you indulge in long conversations and react angrily to the child, it will only aggravate the child’s behaviour more as he would probably be doing the behaviour in the first place to garner attention from you. Thus, not giving the child that huge amount of attention/reaction and cutting the conversation to minimal helps in such cases.
Attend to desired behaviour as well. We as humans always have the tendency to attend to behaviours that surprise or shock us but forget to react to positive behaviour. This may lead to harmful behaviour issues especially if the child is competitive or desires attention more than usual.
Especially in these tested times we should be able to give space to our children and let them do things which they can do on their own. Trying to always help and interfere with the child’s space and abilities may foster under development and lack of confidence in the child.